online dating snippet #1

In an effort to get the ball rolling I thought I would share some of the latest messages my online profile on a local dating site is garnering:

A. "Marilyn Monroe, let's chill :)"
Comments: There is nothing in my profile referencing Marilyn and I note that I'm a really thin/small girl...

B. "You are so cute!! And you seem pretty awesome otherwise, too."

C. "You seem smart and interesting--plus I've read and seen and listened to a lot of the books and movies and music you seem to like..."

It's not my intention to berate these confused men but is this it? I thought I had so many messages to share but I realized that these current ones are so bland it would be utterly boring.

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I decided to start this blog as an outlet to discuss my "singledom" but also as a way to celebrate my independence. As I have traversed the dating world of 2010 it has become evermore clear that independence and self-reliance is something to be cherished when single as well as when in a relationship.

I've reached this conclusion from my own experience as well as my observations of others' relationships. I've had relationships wherein I have found myself almost so dependent, voluntarily, that I ended up feeling like a bird with clipped wings. Maybe it would be more apt to say I felt like a really lazy bird who rode around on another bird. I've also witnessed friends have their lives consumed by relationships to the point where it is all they can speak of. I feel strongly that this is not healthy and that your partner should not be your hobby.

It is my hope that through this blog I can share my dating experiences in all their often hilarious forms as well as my thoughts on what makes a healthy relationship and clear warning signs of an unhealthy relationship. I hope that you, too, can share your experiences.

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